Focusing illusion is a psychological phenomenon we all struggle from.
It’s when we fantasize over a future moment, goal or dream and paint an unrealistic fairytale-like image in our mind. Then, once we’re actually in the moment, achieve the goal or live the dream… we feel disappointed.
It’s the reason online dating doesn’t work all that great. It’s the reason folks hop from job to job to job. It’s the reason we save thousands of dollars to eventually retire and then once we are retired, we realize retirement kind of fucking sucks.
Focusing illusion is the “i’ll be happy when…” fallacy. It’s the “grass is greener on the other side of the fence” epidemic.
The reason movies and books and songs don’t feel like real life (or feel better than real life) is because they are. Our minds are powerful and they can fabricate stories and paint vibrant images and colors the real world can never live up to.
Dennis bought the $50,000 cherry red Corvette not because he truly wanted the $50,000 cherry red Corvette but because focusing illusion made him its bitch.
Dennis painted this picture that with the $50,000 cherry red Corvette he’d look cooler, he’d get some ass and maybe just maybe he’d finally be happy.
But, with each passing monthly payment, the reality starts to set in. The picture he painted in his head starts looks faded and not to mention, it’s pricey.
The solution? It’s not not to dream but rather to dream about the things you truly want.
By Cole Schafer.